Monday, June 4, 2012


I promise I will return to the crafty posts shortly.  I have been busy at work and lazy at home which has been a good combo so far.

I turn 35 this month and it doesn't make me cringe like I thought it would 10 years ago. Maybe that will happen when I turn 40.  Because just typing 40 makes me kind of cringe.  I thought I'd share some things with you that I've learned over these 35 hard-headed years of mine.  From being a bad judge of character.  From being a good judge of character.  From making a lot of mistakes.  From watching my friends make mistakes.  From watching a lot of reality TV.  There are a lot of life lessons to be learned from reality TV.  That should be #36 on the list. This is a growing list, so maybe when I turn 40 I will have a few more to share with you.  But for now, here are 35 things I've learned in 35 years.

 1.  The truth always hurts.

 2.  Listen to your friends.  They see things you don't want to see.

 3.  There is a reason why he is called your first love. There will be others.  Let go and then just be patient.

 4.  Life is short.  Never take your friends or family for granted.  You never know when they will be taken away from you.

 5.  Jealousy = immaturity + insecurity.   

 6.  Some people will never change.

 7.  When you are young, you have a long list of things a guy must be in order for him to be The One. The older you get, the list becomes things the guy must not be in order for him to be The One.  When you meet The One, all lists go out the window.  

  8.  Make sure everything you have on your (above) list of are things you can live up to as well. 

  9.  An Oprah gem:  Kids need to think that you care before they care what you think.  This can also say people need to think that you care before they care what you think. 

10.  'Should of,' 'would of,' 'could of' never gets anyone anywhere.

11.  You can learn a lot from a dog....

    (a).  Always be happy to see your loved ones no matter how long it's been since you've seen them.

    (b).  Even a bump on the road can be a good as a good pillow for a cat nap.

    (c).  Always see the fun in things. Make time to play.

    (d).  Loyalty is underrated.

    (e).  There's nothing like a good walk.
    (f).  There's nothing like a good nap.

    (g).  Love like a dog loves.  Unconditionally.

    (h).  When someone keeps pulling at your tail, don't be afraid to snap at them.  Translation:  You should aim to be the bigger person and turn the other cheek, but at some point you need to just stick up for yourself and not let them keep walking all over you.   

     (i).  Stay hungry. Stay foolish.  Steve jobs said it, but dogs live it everyday. 

12. 'When people show you who they are, believe them.'  Maya Angelou knows what she is talking about.

13.  What goes around always, always, always comes around.

14.  A smile can do wonders.

15.  Your relationship will never mature if both of you choose to keep acting immature. Grow up or get out of it.

16.  If you don't treat him that way, then you shouldn't let him treat you that way.

17.  Self confidence is more beautiful than anything you can buy. Wear it. Show it.

18.  Self respect is better than anything he could pretend to give you.  Respect yourself enough to know when you don't need him in your life.

19.  You can forgive someone, but that doesn't mean you have to forget what they've done to you.

20.  Another gem from Oprah:  You teach people how to treat you. 

21.  Relationships should be simple. You shouldn't have to explain it. If you have to explain it, it's not the right relationship for you. 

22.  If you can't introduce him to your friends, then you are not with the right guy.

23.  Take ownership of your mistakes and say you are sorry.  It's not that hard. 

24.  You are not entitled to anything.  Earn it.  It makes you appreciate what you have in the long run.

25.  He can't read your mind.  Actually, no one can.

26.  Parents actually know what they are talking about. Take their advice more often.

27.  You deserve to be happy everyday.  A gem from Ronnie of Jersey Shore. 

28.  If he tells you he doesn't see himself ever getting married, he really means he doesn't see himself ever marrying you.  See #1.

29.  Regarding worry: All you have is today. Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow isn't here yet.  From my pastor, Ben Young.

30.  Believe in something.

31.  If it's not working, you can't always fix it.

32.  When you are always giving and he is always taking, you are the one that always end up empty handed.

33.  'Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.'  A quote by Carrie Fisher that has stuck with me. 

34.  Haters gonna hate. 

35.  Be yourself.  It may take a while to figure out who you are, but once you find out, just be. 

1 comment:

Anita said...

Happy (early) BD to you!! Great list of just a few of the things that you've learned along the way, it's a nice reminder of how far you've already come. :)